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The seasons are changing as we move rapidly through autumn and into the winter months. It’s time to let the annual plants die while covering and mulching the perennials. Raking leaves, bringing the garden hose inside, putting away delicate planters – all these are tasks for transitioning into the next season.IMG_1496

Many of us will rake leaves, pile them into compost bags and put them beside the road for pick up. Some of us will use those same leaves to make our own compost piles, to nourish and protect fallow gardens throughout the cold winter months.

As we move into this season called “After Divorce,” we may often feel as if we are being discarded into refuse piles. We don’t fit anymore in some of the same groups. We lose “couple” friends. We face stereotypes and prejudice that we never even knew about before we walked through divorce.

Life is indeed moving into a new season, but we don’t have to let this transition destroy us. We can protect the more fragile parts of ourselves from the coldness of others. We can learn how to repurpose some of the experiences we have gone through and use them to make positive changes.

The main thing to remember is that God never, ever discards us. In fact, he reminds us in the book of Isaiah, “Fear not, for you shall not be ashamed; neither be confounded and depressed, for you shall not be put to shame. For you shall forget the shame of your youth, and you shall not [seriously] remember the reproach of your widowhood any more” (Isaiah 54:4 Amplified).

We have no reason to be ashamed or to allow anyone else to shame us. If anyone discards us, we can know that God never will. He has a good plan for our lives and He will gently, tenderly and patiently bring us into the next season.

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