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Christmas living rmAdmittedly, this is not necessarily the happiest time of the year. Many of us are still reeling from divorce, betrayal and the end of the “Happily-ever-after Dream.”

But we don’t have to sit around and feel sorry for ourselves. We can learn how to do Christmas well – even if we do it alone.

Try some of these tips:

  • Buy a special treat – just for you. A decadent piece of chocolate, organic eggnog, those orange slices that are terrible for your teeth but taste really good. It’s only one day out of the year. You can treat yourself to something tasty for one day.
  • Buy yourself a special gift. Maybe it’s a piece of jewelry that reminds you how beautiful you are. That scarf you saw in Penney’s or a new pair of boots. Splurge on something that no one else knows you want. You’re worth it.
  • Call a friend or a family member and wish that person a “Merry Christmas.” He or she might need some encouragement, too.
  • Do something fun. Go to a movie. Yes, it’s okay to go alone. Drive through a Christmas light display. Walk through a shopping mall that’s all dressed up for Christmas. Find a good book and curl up in front of the fire. Take a long bubble bath with lavender.
  • Do something special for someone else. Often, when we help others, we realize how good our lives really are. Go visit someone in assisted living. Take a meal to a single mom and her children. Buy a gift for someone who lives in poverty and deliver it yourself. Think of some way to pay it forward.
  • Remember what Christmas is all about. It isn’t really about presents or Hallmark movies. It’s about a baby who was born in Bethlehem, about a young girl who became a mother, about a young man who protected his little family even though he had to hurry them into a stable. It’s about how much God loved you before you were born and how much He loves you now.
  • Make a list of all your blessings. Then say a prayer of thanks for each one. When we focus on the positives of life, the negatives become less severe. Did you have hot water for your shower this morning? If so, then you are luckier than most of the people in the world.

Try some of these tips or come up with your own. Find a group of people to be with on December 25th and remember – it’s just one day. You’ll make it through and you’re heading into a new year. Next year’s Christmas will be better.

If you still feel downhearted, call a counselor or a minister. Or comment here and we’ll talk through it together.

You’re not alone. Many of us do Christmas single. And even if you can’t see them, angels surround you – maybe even some of the same angels who were there in Bethlehem on that special night.

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