When we’re Starting Over Single, we may feel as if our hearts have been so broken, so damaged that nothing good can ever flow through them again.
But that damage can be reversed. We can learn how to guard our hearts so that we can move forward with a greater sense of wholeness and emotional health.
How do we do that? How do we guard our hearts?
Make your Passions and Dreams a Priority. Think back to before the divorce – even before the marriage. What were some of your dreams? What passions lived in your heart? Find that passion again and make its pursuit a priority every day.
Pay attention to the Springs of Life – the places in you that still feel alive. Sure, you’ve been hurt and maybe you’re a bit numb. But life still flows at the root of that pain. Go deep and rediscover what makes you feel alive. Then dig it out and go for it.
Focus on the Positive. When someone suffers a heart attack, they go through rehab and learn how to build up that heart muscle with careful exercise. We exercise our emotional hearts by focusing on the positive.
Think positive thoughts and ignore the negative. Surround yourself with positive people and stay away from the toxic folks. Read humor and uplifting materials. Stay away from TV shows that focus on death and pain.
Memorize verses from the Psalms and fill your social media posts with inspirational quotes. Think about what is pure and good, what delights your soul. Walk among the flowers. Browse through an art gallery. Do something fun.
At first, you may have to force yourself to find your passion again, to feel alive and to focus on the positive. But in time, you’ll be glad you persevered.
You’ll be healthier and happier and that means, you’ll attract healthy friends.
Guard your heart and begin to really live !
©2015 Starting Over Single
If you need some help to find your passion again, consider coaching. Contact me at RebeccaT@GWHope.org.