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SOS - wet leavesThree stereotypes follow divorced women. All three are generalizations and not necessarily true.

  1. A divorced woman is determined to get any man, including a married man.
  2. A divorced woman is bitter and hateful.
  3. A divorced woman can’t stay in a relationship because she doesn’t trust men.

No matter what we say and no matter what I write here, some people will continue to believe these stereotypes.

So what can we do about that?

We can build strong relationships with our friends who will know the truth about us.

We can enjoy honest, authentic friendships with people who are safe and trust-worthy.

We can set boundaries around our physical selves and our emotional hearts.

We can be alert for any compromising situations – such as when men think divorced women are easy prey.

We can remember that our small choices will affect our large choices.

We can remind ourselves that all of us will have to stand before God who is the Judge.

We can read the story about the woman who was being stoned. Jesus said, “He who is without sin, let him cast the first stone” (John 8:7).

We can guard our hearts, being careful about what we watch on TV or the internet.

We can determine that self-care is an important priority and make a plan for how to nurture ourselves.

We can enlist the help of an accountability partner, a life coach or a counselor.

We can refuse to be labeled.

When we face these stereotypes or when we hear someone whispering about us, we can stand tall and be proud of our true identity.

We are not responsible for how other people think. Their judgment and condemnation do not affect who we really are.

Yes, their words and their false attitudes hurt. But we don’t have to let their smallness affect our self-esteem.

Remember – you are a strong woman and you rescued your children and yourself from a difficult situation.

Be proud of who you are and don’t let anyone’s words throw you into despair.

©2015 Starting Over Single – GateWay of Hope