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In fact, 67% of Single Moms leave the church.
Reasons are varied:
- They feel condemned by comments either from other people or from the pulpit
- They don’t feel as if they belong anymore
- They’ve lost “couple” friends
- They’re working through the grief of divorce and need time and space
- The “wasband” goes to that church, so they feel awkward worshipping in the same place
Maybe you can relate to some of these issues, or maybe you have another issue with the church.
You don’t have to stay in the same church and it’s okay to give yourself a break.
Take a Sabbatical for a while and worship God through a live streaming program, through journaling, through taking a walk, through a time of fasting and prayer or through another avenue.
Give yourself some space and time to discern where you need to be, but don’t isolate completely away from God’s people.
Many churches have programs specifically for single moms. They understand what you’re going through and they can help you through the difficult times.
We have the privilege and the freedom in the US to choose where we want to worship. Visit several churches and look for the one where you feel most comfortable.
Make a list of what you want to find in a church but follow your heart as well.
Ask God to make it clear where he wants you to worship now and how you can best serve him.
Don’t give up on the church, just because you’ve had a bad experience. We need each other and we especially need God’s people.
So when worship is difficult, take heart. This may be the time for you to discover an entirely new denomination, a new fellowship, a place to meet new people and find new friends.
When worship is difficult, focus on the One we worship. He knows how to hold you in the palm of His loving hands.
©2015 Starting Over Single